How to Write a Maid of Honor Proposal Letter

This blog post is all about a maid of honor proposal letter.

Writing a proposal letter to a potential maid of honor is an exceptional task. As a bride, you are literally offering someone an important place in a roll on your big day.

Asking someone to be your maid of honor could be really hectic because of their responsibilities (like the bridal shower and maid of honor speech). You could also be overwhelmed by the other wedding planning items on your to do list.You will need to make sure you have a true friend on your side for all the good and stressful moments.

There are many ways to ask someone to be your maid of honor. If you are more of an introverted bride to be (like I was), you may want to write a heartfelt letter to the person you want to be your maid of honor.

This is a letter for the future maid of honor from the bride. In this blog post, we will go over the reasons why you should write a maid of honor proposal letter. We’ll also give instructions for when and how to write this letter to your future made of honor.

Why should the bride write a maid of honor proposal letter?

Some reasons for writing this letter could be based on your personality type and how special you want this moment to be. As stated before, if you have more of a shy personality, It may feel awkward asking out right. And writing a letter maybe a better option.

A maid of honor proposal letter is very personalized and it should be a level up from your bridesmaid proposals. For instance,You want to say more then just be simple “Will you be my maid of honor?” In a letter you could say way more than that, and express why and how they would make a great maid of honor.

Proposing to your maid of honor and a letter is also good for a more customized experience. For example, if you want to ask them in a more private setting like at lunch or at a spa, then they could read the letter and then respond to you and only you.

A letter is also good if you are sending or mailing her a proposal box gift. A proposal kit is less personal and more hands off. But if you add a really meaningful letter asking them to be your maid of honor and then it adds a special touch to a gift.

When to give maid of honor proposal letter?

You’d want to propose to your maid of honor and bridal party eight months to a year before the wedding, according to professional bridesmaid Jen Glantz. That way they will have enough time to plan pre wedding events and get their dresses.

The best time to ask with your letter is when you have talked it over with your significant other. And have considered all possible people for the role. You’d also want to have a general idea of expectations and duties (not overwhelming).

Pick a time when they are available and offer them the letter while spending time together. Like at brunch or a time your guys are hanging out.

Or if you decide to send them a proposal gift in the mail, include your proposal letter with the gift and mail it altogether. That way they will get to feel extra special when receiving your MOH proposal.

How to write a heartfelt maid of honor proposal letter?

There are 3 ways you could write a proposal letter to your future maid of honor.

Formal letter typed.
Informal letter hand written or typed.
Poem typed and printed with wedding images.

1. A formal maid of honor proposal letter is very official. It should include a professional information like dates, addresses and have a salutation. It is formatted in the traditional three sections the the introduction, summary and conclusion.

This style may seem a little fussy but some people like to have an outline when writing a letter, especially for someone important like their potential future maid of honor. The intro could be about your friendship, summarize your upcoming wedding and conclude by asking them to be your maid of honor.

2. An informal maid of honor proposal letter is a way more flexible. There aren’t many rules when writing your letter. You could address the reader any way you want you could write it out by hand or type it. You could also use slang and abbreviations.

This letter form is completely up to you. You could structure it how ever you want, as long as it makes sense. tell a story, share your favorite moments and talk about why you love them and want them to be the head of your bridal party.

3. Write a poem to express your excitement for getting married and how you want her to be apart of that by being you maid of honor. Poems are creative ways of voicing your feeling and it does not have to rhyme.

You could write a funny poem about how you want her all to yourself during this important time. Or you could write a poem about how you want her to be by your side on your wedding day.

Maid of honor proposal letter examples

Here are some original examples of each maid of honor proposal letter styles mentioned above.

1 Formal:

“Dear Darcy,

Over the years, I have been through a lot and you have been by my side through everything. We have faced situations that most best friends can’t even imagine. You have been of my favorite people to be around and I really value our friendship. You are like a sister to me an I love you.

We’ve haven’t been able to spend much time together recently, but I hope that changes in the near future. I am very excited about my engagement to Jason and have been feeling overwhelmed with joy. I would love for you guide me through this journey to keep me sane and grounded. I trust your judgement and taste. I want you to know that I am you biggest fan!

In conclusion I would like to ask you to be my maid of honor for my wedding. I love you so much and will be elated to have you in this role.

Darcy, will you be my maid of honor?

Sincerely,

Ashley“

2. Informal:

Hey Kelly,

Before you open this box, I want you to know that your are not going to be surprised about it’s contents. As you know, we’ve been friends forever and I don’t know how I would have gotten to this point in my life without you. I mean, if it weren’t for you setting Jim and I up on that blind date, I wouldn’t be engaged right now.

You know that you are my bestie and I want you by my side in planning and celebrating my wedding. From the helping me pick my dress, to twerking to our sing on the dance floor at the reception, I need you there with me.

Chantel, will you be my maid of honor?? (Please say yes or I will go crazy..)

3. Poem

Conclusion

So we really hope you fund this useful. And if she says yes to being your maid of honor for your special day, then this article was worth our time. So get to writing that heartfelt maid of honor proposal letter.

Will you be writing a formal or informal letter to your future maid of honor?